“يا نار كوني برداً و سلاماً على إبراهيم (Ya na’ar kuni bardan wa salaman ala Ibrahim)
O’ Fire be cold and wholesome for Ibrahim!”
Said the voice of the Creator to the raging fire that filled the pit. Obediently, though it roared on with just as much hunger and fury as any fire of its size would, the fire cooled the flames shooting from its blazing heart.
The ayyat puts off and cools down fire of hatred, arrogance, pride. May Allah guide us all!
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise by whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’”
The teacher said to his student with a big ego to take a basket of walnuts and go to the masjid and sit there. Everyone who comes inside, give him your shoes to beat you on your head. If he beats you one time, give him one walnut and if he beats you 2 times give him 2 walnuts. Then when you are done and head is swollen, come back and I give you the next step.
Our ego is so big that it is destroying him or her. That is what is making problems between husband and wife, and between children. No one is trying to be patient on the other.Make a rule with your wife. When she is upset keep quiet and when you are upset she keeps quiet.
So make sure not to listen to your ego. What destroyed humanity is ego. When Shaytan whispered in the ear of Adam (a.s.), he whispered to the self, and the self always likes to be eternal. So Shaytan said, “you will be eternal” and he stepped over what Allah ordered him not to do and ate from the tree. Try to polish the ego. Cut it down. Accept what others are saying. That is why in Sayyidina Musa’s (a.s.) shari`ah there is revenge. You take revenge by your hand – eye for eye, tooth for tooth – you begin to do this and the one who began the fight is the oppressor.
