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Personality Begins where Comparison Ends



Sometimes, itā€™s hard to keep from comparing ourselves to others. As Iā€™ve expressed many times in this blog, it is one of the main reasons that I was in a dark place for so long. But what Iā€™m learning is that comparison only sinks you deeper and deeper into the hole that your insecurities create. ā€œPersonality begins where comparison ends,ā€ is a quote by Karl Lagerfeld that means that the more you compare yourself to others, the more you begin to lose your genuine self. When we compare ourselves to what other people are doing or what other people are accomplishing or what other people are wearing or how much other people have, we are only keeping ourselves from making progress and achieving our own goals.
I spent my whole life paying attention to who had more money than me, who got better grades than me, who was friends with who, but I would stray from paying attention to myself and bettering my own self. I began to lose sight of who I truly was, what was important to me, my true interests, and I excel in. I feel like there were a few times during high school when I began focusing more on looks than I did my academics or sports. The two didnā€™t necessarily deteriorate, but I feel as though the areas could have been stronger than what they were. I was too focused on who had the best hairstyles, the nicest body, and the best clothes. I could have just focused on myself and I would have just have been so much happier.
When I did start focusing on myself, I felt like I was going through some sort of metamorphosis. I grew so happy with myself, I felt like I hadĀ  a new type of confidence. I think that itā€™s important to remember that just because someone has something that you donā€™t have, doesnā€™t mean that you are unworthy of being happy. Not onlyĀ  are you picking yourself apart, but youā€™re picking apart others who have nothing to do with your own inner thoughts. Look at every thing that youā€™ve accomplished and let go of what everyone else has. As a matter of fact, give others a compliment now and then because it will make you feel like a better person. At the end of the day, nobody can determine your happiness but you, so make sure that your happiness is determined by you and you only.

Always be yourself….

Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.
Bruce Lee